Adults who experienced psychological maltreatment as children tend to report lower satisfaction in their romantic relationships, largely because they struggle to form a strong sense of belonging. The longitudinal findings suggest that prioritizing therapies that build a person’s feelings of social connectedness could help repair relational damage stemming from early parental mistreatment. The research was published in Personality and Individual Differences.
Psychologists have extensively documented how early trauma shapes human development. Physical maltreatment and sexual abuse are routinely investigated as risk factors for later mental health struggles. Psychological abuse receives less academic attention, despite its pervasive impact on emotional well-being. This type of maltreatment encompasses parental attitudes and behaviors that are consistently repeated during a child’s developmental years, such as constant belittling, emotional neglect, harsh criticism, or active rejection.
Yakup İme, a researcher at Necmettin Erbakan University in Turkey, sought to understand how this specific form of early adversity echoes into adulthood. Decades of research grounded in attachment theory suggest that the initial bonds children form with their caregivers serve as a template for future connections. A supportive home environment normally teaches children that others are reliable and trustworthy. When parents are psychologically abusive, children often internalize a negative view of themselves and the outside world.
Children who enjoy a consistent and responsive bond with their primary caregivers generally mature into adults who handle emotional intimacy well. They learn to communicate their needs and regulate their emotions effectively during conflicts. In contrast, those subjected to psychological abuse often adopt disorganized or insecure attachment styles. They may alternate between clinging to a partner and pushing them away, leaving little room for emotional stability.
Researchers suspect this early conditioning can disrupt romantic relationships much later in life. Relationship satisfaction is an emotional reaction formed by an individual’s evaluation of the positive and negative situations in their romantic partnership. High relationship satisfaction is strongly associated with better overall physical health and psychological stability. Lower satisfaction is often linked to emotional distress and relationship dissolution.
To understand the mechanism linking a difficult childhood to an unhappy romantic life, İme focused on the concept of belongingness. Belongingness refers to an individual’s internal perception of being accepted, valued, and supported by a group or another person. Humans are fundamentally social beings driven to seek out safe environments and connect with others.
Past research indicates that a high sense of belonging provides a buffer against stress. Conversely, feeling alienated or rejected is associated with anxiety and social isolation. İme hypothesized that psychological abuse in early life damages a person’s ability to feel integrated into social networks. This damaged sense of belonging might then erode their ability to feel secure and satisfied in a romantic relationship.
To test this proposed pathway, the researcher designed a longitudinal study. Collecting data at multiple points in time allows researchers to track developmental trends and determine if changes in one variable predict changes in another. The study recruited 346 adult university students located in Konya, Turkey.
The participant group included 213 women and 133 men, with ages ranging from 20 to 36. Most participants were clustered around the age of 25. The data collection occurred in two separate waves, spaced three months apart, taking place in February and May of a single academic year. Measuring psychological constructs at spaced intervals helps separate preexisting personality traits from actual emotional shifts over time.
During both sessions, participants completed identical printed questionnaires. They filled out a psychological abuse scale, which measures the frequency of psychologically abusive parenting behaviors during early development. Participants rated statements such as how often a parent would purposefully embarrass them in front of others. A higher score indicated a higher frequency of emotional mistreatment in the past.
Next, they completed a general belongingness scale, which assesses whether an individual feels socially accepted or rejected in the present day. Respondents rated statements indicating whether they felt capable of establishing close relationships with their peers and broader community. Higher scores on this scale pointed to a well-developed sense of belonging.
Finally, the participants answered a relationship assessment scale, which evaluates overall contentment with a current romantic partner. This questionnaire asked participants to grade their general satisfaction with their dating life. Elevated scores on this assessment signified that the participant felt happy and secure with their romantic choices.
The researcher matched the responses from the first wave of data collection with the responses from the second wave. To protect privacy, identifying details were limited to pseudonyms and fragments of phone numbers. The data was then analyzed using a statistical technique favored for tracking variables across different points in time. This analysis controls for initial baseline scores, revealing how the factors influence one another as time passes.
The data revealed a predictable sequence stretching from early parental mistreatment to adult romantic dissatisfaction. Participants who reported higher levels of childhood psychological abuse displayed noticeably lower feelings of belonging during the initial assessment. Even after adjusting for baseline assessments, the history of psychological abuse predicted a further decline in societal belongingness three months later. As these young adults felt more isolated from their peers, their romantic lives suffered.
Lower scores in belongingness at the start of the study predicted diminished relationship satisfaction by the second wave of data collection. Finding a place in a community or feeling accepted by peers appears to sustain the emotional closeness required for romance. When that sense of acceptance was missing, participants grew less content with their dating partners. Overall, the statistical model showed that belonging acts as a mediator, linking early emotional abuse to poor relationship satisfaction.
Those who endured constant belittling or neglect from caregivers often develop self-blame and social withdrawal. Because they expect rejection, they may distance themselves from social support networks entirely. This isolation deprives them of the fundamental human need for safety and connection. Consequently, they enter romantic partnerships with heightened insecurities and an impaired capacity to trust their partners.
The study suggests that finding ways to foster social inclusion could offer a therapeutic lifeline. When adults with adverse childhood experiences are successfully integrated into supportive communities, their internal sense of belonging grows. Feeling valued by a broader group may alleviate some of the heavy emotional burden placed on a single romantic partner. Therapies focused on enhancing social adaptability and general belonging might yield positive outcomes for those struggling with relationship instability.
The research features several practical limitations. The data relied entirely on self-reported questionnaires, meaning some responses might have been influenced by a desire to appear socially acceptable. The three-month gap between the two data collection periods limits the ability to track deeply ingrained psychological changes. Tracking participants over several years would offer a more comprehensive look at how these dynamics evolve across a lifespan.
The sample was entirely composed of adult students attending a single university in Turkey. The cultural structure, values, and educational system of the region might have influenced the outcomes. Replicating the study in different countries would help establish whether the observed patterns hold true across diverse populations. The study also stopped short of testing whether the questionnaires maintained strict measurement invariance over time.
Researchers recommend that future inquiries look into other potential mediating factors. Concepts such as interpersonal trust, self-esteem, and emotion regulation skills could also play a role in connecting early emotional maltreatment to later dating distress.
The study, “How early psychological abuse predicts decreased relationship satisfaction via belongingness in adulthood: A longitudinal study,” was authored by Yakup İme.